Learn LUV-Talk for Couples

To exchange conflict for peace, change your conversation pattern. Hold off on your defensive answer until you validate, or acknowledge, what your partner simply said.

This is not agreement, but shows respect that you heard the message and feelings..

Then, give your response and watch your partner be more ready emotionally to listen to your thoughts and feelings. You need to be validated in return, and if you were heard incorrectly, repeat your message until it is understood.

This triggers empathy in both partners as you learn to listen to feelings under the facts.

LISTEN - UNDERSTAND - VALIDATE!